1 00:00:11,130 --> 00:00:11,790 Unknown: Number two 2 00:00:12,809 --> 00:00:17,699 so this pillar is really important in my personal life 3 00:00:17,699 --> 00:00:19,739 one of the most important ones, 4 00:00:19,949 --> 00:00:22,379 I'll say they're all important that this one is 5 00:00:22,649 --> 00:00:24,569 the one that actually leads 6 00:00:26,370 --> 00:00:28,050 propels your relationship 7 00:00:28,380 --> 00:00:33,930 straight to love level two actual love relationship because 8 00:00:34,350 --> 00:00:37,920 you see love in essence 9 00:00:39,390 --> 00:00:41,310 Well, it's a whole nother topic, of course. 10 00:00:42,030 --> 00:00:46,380 But the point is what normally what people call love when they 11 00:00:46,380 --> 00:00:47,160 fall in love. 12 00:00:47,969 --> 00:00:49,319 It's not actually love. 13 00:00:49,469 --> 00:00:50,309 It's just 14 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:53,970 this first primary stage of the development. 15 00:00:54,450 --> 00:01:00,090 Love is something that's that has to be grown inside you Of 16 00:01:00,090 --> 00:01:03,450 course not meaning that you have to grow 17 00:01:03,479 --> 00:01:04,199 as a 18 00:01:04,380 --> 00:01:05,520 flower per se.

19 00:01:06,960 --> 00:01:08,040 You're more like 20 00:01:10,290 --> 00:01:14,400 unleashing it in the world. And for that you need to work on 21 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:18,090 yourself. You need to work on your relationship to get rid of 22 00:01:18,150 --> 00:01:23,610 a lot of judgment, a lot of things that actually preventing 23 00:01:23,610 --> 00:01:26,340 you from unleashing Europe who love potential 24 00:01:26,430 --> 00:01:29,160 for the love to bloom inside of your relationship. 25 00:01:30,330 --> 00:01:34,590 You see, we're all already full of love. And we're just not 26 00:01:34,590 --> 00:01:35,430 expressing it 27 00:01:35,490 --> 00:01:37,140 properly. We're leaving 28 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:40,500 our self worth, we close down.

There's so many barriers, 29 00:01:40,500 --> 00:01:46,290 there's so many expectations. And in order for relationship to 30 00:01:46,290 --> 00:01:49,410 actually start blooming with love, you have to understand 31 00:01:49,410 --> 00:01:53,250 there's like one person, another person and in between them this 32 00:01:53,250 --> 00:01:56,130 like bunch of shells that I mentioned an audience right and 33 00:01:56,130 --> 00:01:59,070 there's a bunch of shells around them and each of them wrapped up 34 00:01:59,070 --> 00:02:02,700 in all this things. So it takes both of them to actually unwrap 35 00:02:02,700 --> 00:02:07,620 all this things. So they they expose their hearts, their core 36 00:02:07,620 --> 00:02:11,850 being this pure love potential inside of them towards 37 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:13,920 towards one another. And if one 38 00:02:13,920 --> 00:02:16,920 is still closed and another one completely open doesn't work, 39 00:02:17,130 --> 00:02:21,540 because yes, I mean that person who's closed, he can still kind 40 00:02:21,540 --> 00:02:22,950 of see and 41 00:02:23,550 --> 00:02:26,310 receive that love from another person but not 42 00:02:26,820 --> 00:02:31,080 completely not fully and I cannot express his 43 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:33,090 love back because he's so close.

44 00:02:33,630 --> 00:02:38,670 So relationship in order for it to grow to that level, it has to 45 00:02:38,670 --> 00:02:39,870 be completely open. 46 00:02:40,230 --> 00:02:42,930 And what I'm going to be talking about right now, 47 00:02:42,990 --> 00:02:44,760 these are two keys 48 00:02:46,170 --> 00:02:51,030 to this type of relationship. Okay. And it starts, it's 49 00:02:51,030 --> 00:02:55,650 called, I would say this pillar, I would call it acceptance 50 00:02:55,710 --> 00:02:57,030 and gratitude. 51 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:06,300 These two go hand in hand. Okay?

I'm gonna explain why. So, first 52 00:03:06,300 --> 00:03:11,340 of all, there's this completely different person. Okay? And this 53 00:03:11,340 --> 00:03:12,630 is the here's you 54 00:03:14,820 --> 00:03:17,610 both of you have completely different culture. 55 00:03:17,640 --> 00:03:20,760 You grew up differently in different families, different 56 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,700 rules, different ideas, different concepts about the 57 00:03:23,700 --> 00:03:27,270 world about the things, how they work, and how you need to 58 00:03:27,270 --> 00:03:31,200 express certain feelings, emotions, love how you need to 59 00:03:31,290 --> 00:03:35,550 act in a certain way. How do you need to satisfy the wishes of 60 00:03:35,550 --> 00:03:39,060 another person?

What is respect to punch a bunch of bunch of 61 00:03:39,060 --> 00:03:42,660 different definitions in your head. So you're a completely, 62 00:03:43,110 --> 00:03:46,800 completely different in this aspect. And if you think about 63 00:03:47,310 --> 00:03:51,120 all of us are completely different, all seven and some 64 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:53,400 billion people, we're all unique, 65 00:03:53,850 --> 00:03:57,330 okay. And this is the first thing to understand here. You 66 00:03:57,330 --> 00:04:01,080 have to understand that every single person is used tend to 67 00:04:01,110 --> 00:04:06,210 expect something from another unique person is absolute 68 00:04:06,210 --> 00:04:07,200 nonsense. 69 00:04:07,590 --> 00:04:09,570 Just think about this and absolute nonsense 70 00:04:09,570 --> 00:04:13,560 to expect a certain thing from another person, because they are 71 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:17,490 unique, you cannot expect them to do the same things that you 72 00:04:17,490 --> 00:04:19,890 do.

You cannot expect them to think 73 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:21,660 in the same way you do to feel 74 00:04:21,690 --> 00:04:25,860 in the same way to do because they are unique. You know, it's 75 00:04:25,860 --> 00:04:29,100 like you would expect the two fingerprints to match, you know, 76 00:04:29,100 --> 00:04:31,770 all this line to be here, it should be the same thing. This 77 00:04:31,770 --> 00:04:34,200 one should be the same and this contribution, but they're not. 78 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:39,210 The fingerprints are completely different. All this stuff is 79 00:04:39,210 --> 00:04:41,760 completely different. And I'm not talking about just the 80 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:44,460 bodies, our bodies are completely different.

But 81 00:04:44,580 --> 00:04:47,580 inside of us, there's so much more. We're so 82 00:04:47,580 --> 00:04:50,760 complex. It's crazy. Like we have so many different aspects 83 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:55,290 to our being. We're multi level multi dimensional beings. So 84 00:04:55,350 --> 00:04:57,960 there's so many things that criss cross and make this 85 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:02,130 complexity.

So the First thing you can do for yourself is the 86 00:05:02,130 --> 00:05:05,160 best thing you can do for yourself is stop expecting 87 00:05:05,190 --> 00:05:07,200 something from another person and 88 00:05:07,260 --> 00:05:08,160 accept 89 00:05:08,460 --> 00:05:12,690 them just the way they are. You know what happens? You're also a 90 00:05:12,690 --> 00:05:16,620 force both ways. So here's the magic when you start accepting 91 00:05:16,650 --> 00:05:23,970 somebody, just suddenly, you allow yourself to be just the 92 00:05:23,970 --> 00:05:24,690 way you are. 93 00:05:25,170 --> 00:05:26,940 You stop pressuring yourself, 94 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:31,680 you stop feeling guilty about certain things. You stop blaming 95 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:36,540 yourself, for not doing or doing certain things.

You just allow 96 00:05:36,540 --> 00:05:40,140 yourself to express just the way you are who can possibly blame 97 00:05:40,140 --> 00:05:43,830 you. If they try to blame you just understand that they just 98 00:05:43,830 --> 00:05:47,220 don't see what you see. Their understanding is they think 99 00:05:47,220 --> 00:05:51,510 we're all saying robots that came up the you know, Robert, 100 00:05:51,780 --> 00:05:56,070 plant or something. It's not this way, is so obvious. It's 101 00:05:56,070 --> 00:06:01,050 just people not used to thinking in this category. But It is so 102 00:06:01,050 --> 00:06:05,160 evident to everybody that we're all completely different.

So 103 00:06:05,280 --> 00:06:06,480 allow yourself 104 00:06:06,510 --> 00:06:07,500 to be yourself 105 00:06:07,740 --> 00:06:09,720 and allow others to see luxury 106 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,840 to being themselves and expressing them in the way they 107 00:06:12,840 --> 00:06:16,740 are. And the second part of this is gratitude. 108 00:06:17,250 --> 00:06:18,780 Because think about it, 109 00:06:19,710 --> 00:06:23,460 you mean completely unique beam every single day like everybody 110 00:06:23,460 --> 00:06:27,630 you meet, they're completely unique. Isn't that awesome? That 111 00:06:27,750 --> 00:06:31,380 you can learn something from them. He says, awesome that they 112 00:06:31,380 --> 00:06:35,790 are in need.

Imagine everybody will be the same. Imagine two 113 00:06:35,790 --> 00:06:39,120 people are meeting each other every day, just like Hello, 114 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:43,290 hello. Hi. Hi, how you doing? How you doing? I'm good.

I'm 115 00:06:43,290 --> 00:06:50,730 good. Hi, hi, Todd hub, and everything are mirroring each 116 00:06:50,730 --> 00:06:53,580 other. It's impossible to be like, what's the point of this 117 00:06:53,580 --> 00:06:58,800 life dude, no point. So think about it. It's such a blessing 118 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:02,640 that we're all the same. We're all connected.

But yet we are 119 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:08,760 all unique expressions of this same, same world. We're part of 120 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:11,640 this world that we all make every single tree, every single 121 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:15,240 animal, everything is unique. And this is what's cool about 122 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:15,420 it. 123 00:07:15,630 --> 00:07:16,200 So 124 00:07:16,229 --> 00:07:19,739 be grateful for it. Just be grateful. that other person is a 125 00:07:19,739 --> 00:07:23,879 completely different thing.

And you can learn so much from them. 126 00:07:24,239 --> 00:07:27,839 Because, in essence, you learn about yourself 127 00:07:27,870 --> 00:07:29,820 also, a lot of things 128 00:07:30,870 --> 00:07:34,020 because you look at them and you see something you don't like, 129 00:07:34,380 --> 00:07:38,490 why don't you like it? What is inside of you that you see in 130 00:07:38,490 --> 00:07:40,350 another person that you don't like? 131 00:07:41,640 --> 00:07:42,480 It's just some kind 132 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:46,380 of definition that you're thinking that this is incorrect 133 00:07:46,380 --> 00:07:50,580 in some way that this expression of another person is somehow 134 00:07:50,670 --> 00:07:56,100 possibly incorrect. So you think God is incorrect and let's not 135 00:07:56,100 --> 00:07:59,790 talk about God nature's incorrect makes mistakes. They 136 00:07:59,790 --> 00:08:02,010 should That's what you're saying.

When you're looking at a 137 00:08:02,010 --> 00:08:06,780 person, you're not happy with them for whatever they do. But 138 00:08:06,780 --> 00:08:10,050 as soon as you're starting to send that, whatever the person 139 00:08:10,050 --> 00:08:14,280 does, is absolutely perfect. And this is 140 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:18,630 the unique expression of nature. Basically, you start 141 00:08:18,630 --> 00:08:22,710 suddenly feeling this feeling of gratitude. And you're like, Wow, 142 00:08:22,769 --> 00:08:25,049 this is so amazing. I can 143 00:08:25,139 --> 00:08:29,369 learn so much from this person.

I can teach them much this 144 00:08:29,369 --> 00:08:34,169 person also by just purely expressing myself, just by being 145 00:08:34,169 --> 00:08:39,869 this perfect mirror for them. Also, not to play pretend game 146 00:08:39,869 --> 00:08:44,519 not to not to play this game of soldiers in an army. We're all 147 00:08:44,519 --> 00:08:48,599 the same. We're not the same. Stop kidding yourself. You're 148 00:08:48,599 --> 00:08:52,619 not like anybody else will never will be like anybody else.

Yes, 149 00:08:52,619 --> 00:08:56,969 you can. Adjust your qualities. You can change in many ways, but 150 00:08:56,969 --> 00:09:02,099 you will never be another person. Okay, so stop quoting 151 00:09:02,639 --> 00:09:03,479 the person, 152 00:09:04,020 --> 00:09:06,840 copy the traits. Think of it as 153 00:09:06,870 --> 00:09:08,790 just copying certain things. 154 00:09:09,060 --> 00:09:10,020 If you like something 155 00:09:10,170 --> 00:09:13,920 resonates with you, if you want to grow up to this, be ready to 156 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:18,720 just let go the things that you that you have inside of you and 157 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:23,460 live with another person.

That's how great it is. So to 158 00:09:23,460 --> 00:09:24,450 summarise, 159 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:26,700 acceptance in gratitude, 160 00:09:27,090 --> 00:09:32,610 they go hand in hand, accept everybody, and allow yourself, 161 00:09:32,670 --> 00:09:36,600 be yourself allow themselves to be themselves. Okay? This 162 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:41,340 acceptance of this fact that we're all unique, will blow you 163 00:09:41,340 --> 00:09:45,900 away. Google by itself already changed any relationship with 164 00:09:45,900 --> 00:09:49,620 everybody, just this one thing. If you just ignore everything 165 00:09:49,620 --> 00:09:53,730 else, this one is going to change it already.

But if you 166 00:09:53,820 --> 00:09:56,730 start playing with all the stuff that I'm going to be talking 167 00:09:56,730 --> 00:10:00,450 about it you will see the drastic improvement. Really, 168 00:10:00,450 --> 00:10:05,610 really, really fast. So it's all here. It's all here. It's not 169 00:10:05,610 --> 00:10:08,940 nothing physical. It doesn't matter what people do to you.

It 170 00:10:08,940 --> 00:10:13,860 doesn't matter what they say. It doesn't matter. All that matters 171 00:10:13,890 --> 00:10:17,400 is how you perceive it. How do you relate to this thing? How do 172 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:20,220 you see them? How do you see these relationships?

Are you 173 00:10:20,220 --> 00:10:24,660 accepting who they are, even if they're expressing negative 174 00:10:24,660 --> 00:10:27,780 emotions towards you, even if they're negative, or evil or 175 00:10:27,780 --> 00:10:28,740 something, whatever. 176 00:10:29,369 --> 00:10:30,869 This is a unique expression. 177 00:10:31,499 --> 00:10:35,879 Accept them, at least accept them. And gratitude comes later 178 00:10:35,879 --> 00:10:38,729 when you understand the uniqueness when you understand 179 00:10:38,729 --> 00:10:41,429 what they teach you. And teaching is not always about 180 00:10:41,429 --> 00:10:44,759 good things that can be shown you agree with negative things, 181 00:10:44,849 --> 00:10:50,219 and you can learn in this way from them also. What you don't 182 00:10:50,219 --> 00:10:52,769 want to in your life, for example, if you see somebody 183 00:10:52,769 --> 00:10:56,789 abusing somebody, and you say to yourself, oh, I want that in my 184 00:10:56,789 --> 00:11:00,689 life.

That's it. So you learn something from Somebody in the 185 00:11:00,689 --> 00:11:04,319 teaching in this negative way. So there is something to be 186 00:11:04,319 --> 00:11:08,159 grateful for you see, all this negativity that we see around 187 00:11:08,159 --> 00:11:13,529 us, teaches us also. So this is a really important topic and I'm 188 00:11:13,529 --> 00:11:14,429 going to give you some 189 00:11:14,610 --> 00:11:15,780 assignments, of course, 190 00:11:16,260 --> 00:11:20,640 to play around with it a little bit and hopefully you'll get a 191 00:11:21,150 --> 00:11:22,230 deeper understanding