1 00:00:10,110 --> 00:00:11,610 Unknown: Okay, welcome back. So 2 00:00:11,850 --> 00:00:12,450 this is going to 3 00:00:14,130 --> 00:00:18,930 have great relationships. And this is really interesting. 4 00:00:19,980 --> 00:00:20,940 Half and half, 5 00:00:22,140 --> 00:00:23,970 or one plus one. 6 00:00:26,490 --> 00:00:28,470 So what did I mean by this? 7 00:00:30,090 --> 00:00:32,940 Okay, so here's the common thing about relationships.

8 00:00:33,150 --> 00:00:34,380 Everyday we see, 9 00:00:35,100 --> 00:00:36,090 we hear 10 00:00:37,230 --> 00:00:41,220 the same say, Oh, I need to find my second house. 11 00:00:41,580 --> 00:00:43,440 I'm looking for my second house. 12 00:00:43,500 --> 00:00:44,220 I'm looking 13 00:00:45,930 --> 00:00:47,220 for my better house. 14 00:00:48,150 --> 00:00:50,760 This is my better half this my better half. 15 00:00:51,690 --> 00:00:54,000 We're all talking about this half, half, half, 16 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:55,920 half, half and half. 17 00:00:56,700 --> 00:00:57,210 So 18 00:00:59,010 --> 00:01:00,780 I'm going to introduce you to the euthanasia.

19 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:06,450 And this has been checked by us. And this is kind of 20 00:01:08,700 --> 00:01:11,520 this is true in the highest level 21 00:01:11,580 --> 00:01:14,220 of being of life. 22 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:16,380 And the idea 23 00:01:16,380 --> 00:01:18,090 is, is this 24 00:01:19,410 --> 00:01:20,430 one plus one 25 00:01:21,090 --> 00:01:22,050 is 11. 26 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:24,270 It's not two 27 00:01:25,350 --> 00:01:30,840 and a half is half, half and half is not even a one is just 28 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:31,290 to have. 29 00:01:33,900 --> 00:01:35,730 It's a really deep philosophical question 30 00:01:35,730 --> 00:01:36,600 if you think about it, 31 00:01:36,630 --> 00:01:39,000 but if you start applying this 32 00:01:40,350 --> 00:01:40,980 concept, 33 00:01:41,699 --> 00:01:42,869 to your relationships, 34 00:01:43,320 --> 00:01:44,550 and just observe, 35 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:48,240 over time, you will notice very 36 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:49,170 special.

37 00:01:50,490 --> 00:01:51,690 We're special 38 00:01:51,780 --> 00:01:52,860 dynamics here. 39 00:01:53,580 --> 00:01:57,930 If you look at relationship from the point of half and half, and 40 00:01:57,930 --> 00:02:02,790 we complete this relationship This relationship was will 41 00:02:02,820 --> 00:02:07,770 always be codependent. Okay? So you will always depend on other 42 00:02:07,770 --> 00:02:09,840 person's gifts 43 00:02:09,900 --> 00:02:11,130 or abilities or whatever 44 00:02:11,130 --> 00:02:15,540 they bring into relationship will always dependent. Okay, and 45 00:02:15,540 --> 00:02:15,960 this is 46 00:02:17,730 --> 00:02:19,680 this is kind of the original 47 00:02:20,910 --> 00:02:22,590 point where you both meet. 48 00:02:23,730 --> 00:02:28,290 That's why in terms of, I'm looking for my, for my second 49 00:02:28,290 --> 00:02:32,220 half, it's kind of correct in the moment when you're actually 50 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:40,230 looking.

However, it's not correct to look for your second 51 00:02:40,230 --> 00:02:40,620 half 52 00:02:41,699 --> 00:02:42,539 in the form of 53 00:02:44,310 --> 00:02:50,640 in order to find a person who's actually willing to develop a 54 00:02:50,640 --> 00:02:56,430 new credit suite, willing to have a meaningful relationship, 55 00:02:56,430 --> 00:02:59,700 long term relationship with you wanting to build it with you 56 00:03:00,780 --> 00:03:02,490 It's never going to be the person who is 57 00:03:04,650 --> 00:03:06,420 you need a complete person. 58 00:03:07,110 --> 00:03:09,090 And likewise, 59 00:03:09,569 --> 00:03:13,439 to meet a person who is complete and the whole, you have to be 60 00:03:13,469 --> 00:03:14,069 the same. 61 00:03:14,490 --> 00:03:17,610 You will never meet a person 62 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:19,289 who's a whole, I mean, 63 00:03:19,290 --> 00:03:22,320 you will meet them, but you will never get in a good relationship 64 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:27,060 with them because they will see you dragging them down.

You are 65 00:03:27,060 --> 00:03:30,240 going to be the weakest link in this relationship all the time. 66 00:03:30,780 --> 00:03:33,420 And the whole idea of this 67 00:03:33,900 --> 00:03:35,550 half and half businesses 68 00:03:37,620 --> 00:03:42,270 because we're not grown because we're trying to plug a hole in 69 00:03:42,330 --> 00:03:48,630 inside of ourselves. And majority of this, people who are 70 00:03:48,990 --> 00:03:53,070 getting the relationship in this way with this mindset of finding 71 00:03:53,070 --> 00:03:59,460 the second half of them so they come from this position of lack 72 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:03,660 Coming from a position where they had a rough childhood or 73 00:04:03,660 --> 00:04:05,400 something they be lacking 74 00:04:05,460 --> 00:04:07,740 some love from their mother or 75 00:04:07,889 --> 00:04:12,839 parents in general, or they've been victimized in some way. And 76 00:04:12,839 --> 00:04:15,389 looking, they're looking for some kind of stability.

They're 77 00:04:15,389 --> 00:04:18,839 looking for some kind of protection for some, you know, 78 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:22,589 for the Princeton, Shining Armor or something with a white 79 00:04:22,589 --> 00:04:28,349 Mercedes Benz or something like that. It's usually it's really 80 00:04:28,349 --> 00:04:33,029 selfish. People who are looking at life in relationship 81 00:04:33,029 --> 00:04:35,969 like this. They're not ready to do anything. 82 00:04:36,089 --> 00:04:39,599 They're half, they cannot do anything. They just, they just 83 00:04:39,599 --> 00:04:43,859 want to get stuff they want.

They have this ideas that 84 00:04:43,919 --> 00:04:48,209 assumes they find this guy or this music, find the girl of my 85 00:04:48,209 --> 00:04:50,549 dreams, or as soon as they meet somebody, 86 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:52,950 suddenly everything 87 00:04:53,339 --> 00:04:54,149 can become 88 00:04:54,180 --> 00:04:59,550 just great. I'm gonna plug this hole inside of me this whole 89 00:04:59,580 --> 00:05:03,060 pain I'm going to plug it with another person, and it's going 90 00:05:03,060 --> 00:05:03,630 to be fine. 91 00:05:04,409 --> 00:05:07,589 And yes, it might be fine for a month or two, 92 00:05:08,010 --> 00:05:10,710 and you're going to get married and then you're going to get 93 00:05:10,710 --> 00:05:12,990 divorced in half a year. And that's what's going to 94 00:05:12,990 --> 00:05:14,610 happen. Why? Because 95 00:05:15,390 --> 00:05:16,170 it's gonna hurt.

96 00:05:17,369 --> 00:05:18,269 Basically, that's it. 97 00:05:19,380 --> 00:05:20,550 You need to grow, 98 00:05:20,820 --> 00:05:23,610 you need to grow in the kingdom prepared to grow in this 99 00:05:23,610 --> 00:05:24,330 relationship. 100 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:26,700 That's exactly what's gonna happen, your relationships gonna 101 00:05:26,700 --> 00:05:26,940 die 102 00:05:26,940 --> 00:05:29,790 off. It's not capable of 103 00:05:29,819 --> 00:05:31,679 transforming in this way it doesn't 104 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:32,760 have the power source, 105 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:34,740 you are lacking the policies 106 00:05:34,950 --> 00:05:39,120 you are unable to give. Only one person is in the relationship, 107 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:42,570 or both trying to just get from one another. 108 00:05:43,350 --> 00:05:44,220 There's no growth 109 00:05:45,329 --> 00:05:50,969 relationship and then being done before it even started.

Because 110 00:05:51,449 --> 00:05:54,389 whenever you hitting into relationship, but this 111 00:05:54,390 --> 00:05:56,310 mindset that I'm just going to get this and this 112 00:05:56,310 --> 00:05:58,890 and this from the person and I'm going to be good 113 00:06:00,359 --> 00:06:01,169 Forget about 114 00:06:02,009 --> 00:06:05,039 this relationship is dude before I even began. 115 00:06:05,699 --> 00:06:06,389 So 116 00:06:06,989 --> 00:06:09,299 what I'm trying to say here in this pillar 117 00:06:09,359 --> 00:06:13,559 is first relationship that you need to build is with yourself. 118 00:06:14,910 --> 00:06:17,610 What do I mean by that? And then 119 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:20,670 there's, there's gonna be some kind of relation to something, 120 00:06:20,700 --> 00:06:22,350 right? So 121 00:06:22,529 --> 00:06:25,919 in order to build a relationship, so the point of 122 00:06:25,949 --> 00:06:30,299 building relationship with yourself is your personal 123 00:06:30,299 --> 00:06:35,489 growth.

There, whether you like it or not, you live in the world 124 00:06:35,489 --> 00:06:37,739 of duality. Okay, and 125 00:06:38,790 --> 00:06:41,280 it is, of course, a much deeper spiritual 126 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:43,079 topic. And it's 127 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,520 not exactly belonging to this course. But the point is, 128 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:51,720 there's, there's this higher power, let's say this higher 129 00:06:52,079 --> 00:06:53,789 self of you, 130 00:06:54,719 --> 00:06:58,079 whatever you want to call it, you want to call it God that's 131 00:06:58,079 --> 00:07:02,489 guiding you. You want to call it soul. or anything, it doesn't 132 00:07:02,489 --> 00:07:05,129 really matter.

This means they're all means the same 133 00:07:05,129 --> 00:07:08,729 thing. There's higher something, there's this subconscious, 134 00:07:08,729 --> 00:07:12,539 there's different parts of you. And then there's personality, 135 00:07:12,539 --> 00:07:13,169 the ego, 136 00:07:13,559 --> 00:07:15,449 and its desires and 137 00:07:15,510 --> 00:07:16,530 habits and stuff. 138 00:07:17,009 --> 00:07:18,689 So there's kind of two parts 139 00:07:19,439 --> 00:07:20,669 and this parts, 140 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:22,350 with the poet's brain, 141 00:07:22,379 --> 00:07:26,459 also at heart, they need to kind of get into the relationship, 142 00:07:26,759 --> 00:07:29,939 you need to start working with yourself. First, you need to 143 00:07:29,939 --> 00:07:30,959 become whole, 144 00:07:31,169 --> 00:07:32,159 you need to 145 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:34,830 throw away this idea 146 00:07:34,950 --> 00:07:36,420 that you need to put some kind 147 00:07:36,420 --> 00:07:40,290 of hole inside of yourself, your whole and complete this is what 148 00:07:40,290 --> 00:07:44,250 you need to understand first, as soon as you get this, as soon as 149 00:07:44,250 --> 00:07:48,240 you grow up to the level then suddenly you are capable of 150 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:52,050 creating a perfect, great relationship.

Without this 151 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:56,850 without the readiness at least, to do whatever is necessary to 152 00:07:56,850 --> 00:07:58,890 work on a relationship and to grow. 153 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:00,600 Certainly 154 00:08:00,630 --> 00:08:02,160 in in your relationship, 155 00:08:02,490 --> 00:08:07,080 without this commitment, there will not be any great 156 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:11,100 relationship. It's just impossible. Because there's 157 00:08:11,100 --> 00:08:15,090 always you, in order to relate to somebody, there's got to be 158 00:08:15,150 --> 00:08:20,520 somebody to relate to the other person. And what if you don't 159 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:24,360 even know who you are? What if you don't understand yourself?

160 00:08:24,630 --> 00:08:26,640 What if there is so many paradoxes 161 00:08:26,700 --> 00:08:29,640 within yourself that you cannot resolve? What if you 162 00:08:29,820 --> 00:08:32,820 contradict yourself in many different situations? 163 00:08:33,390 --> 00:08:37,620 how that happened? Why is it happening? How who's in control? 164 00:08:37,650 --> 00:08:38,940 Where's your integrity?

165 00:08:39,330 --> 00:08:40,230 Who are you? 166 00:08:41,789 --> 00:08:44,159 Those are really important questions to ask 167 00:08:44,159 --> 00:08:46,229 yourself to start this journey of self 168 00:08:46,230 --> 00:08:49,110 exploration and self discovery and self integrity, 169 00:08:49,380 --> 00:08:51,300 self knowledge, you can come 170 00:08:52,650 --> 00:09:00,300 in without this. Without this growth. You will never be In any 171 00:09:00,300 --> 00:09:04,110 good relationship with anyone, it's just, it's just impossible. 172 00:09:04,500 --> 00:09:10,710 It's just perfect country addiction, you see two ends of 173 00:09:10,710 --> 00:09:21,600 the same, same stick. So, to summarize this idea is to build 174 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:24,960 a great relationship.

And by great, I mean in this case, one 175 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:28,800 plus one, it means 1111 is great. This is how you do 176 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:35,160 relationships. One one person is whole and complete, open, 177 00:09:35,250 --> 00:09:37,350 loving, wise, 178 00:09:37,410 --> 00:09:38,250 mature, 179 00:09:38,490 --> 00:09:40,380 and he needs another person to make that 180 00:09:40,410 --> 00:09:43,830 suddenly they don't have to suck up anything from each other. 181 00:09:44,010 --> 00:09:47,670 Okay to complete themselves, okay? Their whole they don't 182 00:09:47,670 --> 00:09:51,900 need to. They don't need to do anything.

They're so cool that 183 00:09:51,900 --> 00:09:55,650 they are overflowing. Okay, in order to teach people you have 184 00:09:55,650 --> 00:09:59,520 to be that you have to know things. Okay? In order to love 185 00:10:00,269 --> 00:10:01,469 love somebody else 186 00:10:01,470 --> 00:10:04,410 you need to love yourself first. Okay? 187 00:10:04,889 --> 00:10:06,659 You can, you can notice this 188 00:10:06,660 --> 00:10:08,400 this thing in everywhere 189 00:10:08,729 --> 00:10:10,409 in order to be able to help 190 00:10:10,410 --> 00:10:13,260 somebody to help yourself.

If you cannot 191 00:10:13,290 --> 00:10:18,120 help yourself, how can you help other people? You can. It's 192 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:18,420 really 193 00:10:18,420 --> 00:10:21,630 simple. So what happens 194 00:10:21,630 --> 00:10:25,170 when two people meet each other, and they're all incomplete and 195 00:10:25,170 --> 00:10:28,650 they're overflowing with everything, but with love with 196 00:10:28,650 --> 00:10:28,920 it, 197 00:10:29,790 --> 00:10:32,010 what happens is they start giving 198 00:10:32,010 --> 00:10:34,590 this thing to one another. And but 199 00:10:34,680 --> 00:10:37,050 but they can take much 200 00:10:37,050 --> 00:10:40,770 more because they're needed. They just want to give more, and 201 00:10:40,770 --> 00:10:43,530 then the other person just want to give you more, and then you 202 00:10:43,530 --> 00:10:47,430 make no more than more and more and more.

So what 203 00:10:47,430 --> 00:10:48,060 happens, 204 00:10:48,300 --> 00:10:52,890 the 11th happens 11th effect is a quantum happens quantum of 205 00:10:52,890 --> 00:10:56,970 those two, one multiplies by one and multiplies with something 206 00:10:56,970 --> 00:11:01,530 else is this one. It just takes This whole relationship to a new 207 00:11:01,530 --> 00:11:06,030 level, it's not just one plus two is the union of these things 208 00:11:06,300 --> 00:11:11,190 is suddenly this one hole, one hole. And the union combines 209 00:11:11,460 --> 00:11:15,660 this. It's it's completely different thing. That's what's 210 00:11:15,660 --> 00:11:20,850 called great relationship. It's the union.

Like you can grow so 211 00:11:20,850 --> 00:11:25,200 much in this union, you can, you can do so much in this union, 212 00:11:25,230 --> 00:11:25,920 your, 213 00:11:26,429 --> 00:11:29,009 your, your whole world, and immediately, 214 00:11:29,970 --> 00:11:32,370 suddenly, you're new anything else, you're 215 00:11:32,550 --> 00:11:34,110 like this complete group, 216 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:34,680 or 217 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:38,520 just these two people, you're already an imagining 218 00:11:38,850 --> 00:11:45,390 expanding this group to three people. It's not a 111. So this 219 00:11:45,390 --> 00:11:48,570 is a really cool way to to play around with it and then trying 220 00:11:48,570 --> 00:11:50,190 to understand it, how it works. 221 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:53,940 And, on the contrary, of course, if you understand 222 00:11:54,090 --> 00:11:57,420 half in half, what they're going to do is that he's going to try 223 00:11:57,420 --> 00:11:58,200 to connect, 224 00:11:58,770 --> 00:12:01,350 that's all they can do, but they Half and half, they're all 225 00:12:01,350 --> 00:12:05,100 different.

They have their needs. So one second, the other 226 00:12:05,100 --> 00:12:05,520 one is 227 00:12:05,519 --> 00:12:06,539 just like it's 228 00:12:06,690 --> 00:12:10,380 tear itself apart. It's not even a stable one. It's not an 229 00:12:10,380 --> 00:12:13,740 incomplete one. It's not overflowing, it's still in the 230 00:12:13,740 --> 00:12:17,040 process of balancing itself out. 231 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:18,780 Okay?

Only when 232 00:12:18,780 --> 00:12:22,380 it balances itself out, it can become one. And then it starts 233 00:12:22,380 --> 00:12:25,980 kind of growing to where it starts separating into. 234 00:12:26,820 --> 00:12:28,290 Okay, let's just look at it 235 00:12:28,530 --> 00:12:37,260 as cells in the body, you know, the sperm and the egg combined, 236 00:12:37,260 --> 00:12:42,720 and they, they create this one or one, one cell coordinate. And 237 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:45,960 then when it grows when it's so big and so mature that it can 238 00:12:46,290 --> 00:12:49,770 just grow out of this, it just becomes two of them. Okay? 239 00:12:50,309 --> 00:12:51,149 Why two?

240 00:12:51,299 --> 00:12:54,149 Because they will complete already that there's going to be 241 00:12:54,149 --> 00:12:58,079 more so they're so overflowing with this kind of attitude. Now, 242 00:12:58,109 --> 00:13:01,169 they grow, they grow, they grow and they There's suddenly so 243 00:13:01,169 --> 00:13:04,109 much of them. There's so overflowing again that each one 244 00:13:04,109 --> 00:13:08,489 was clicked into. And then boom, there's suddenly a bigger 245 00:13:08,519 --> 00:13:11,519 organism much something much bigger happening here. There's 246 00:13:11,519 --> 00:13:15,869 so much more power underlying. Okay, so much more energy, so 247 00:13:15,869 --> 00:13:16,769 much more love so 248 00:13:16,770 --> 00:13:18,600 much more everything.

249 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:21,810 Okay? The abundance and everything that you 250 00:13:21,810 --> 00:13:22,380 attract 251 00:13:22,470 --> 00:13:24,330 as a business, the Union, 252 00:13:25,170 --> 00:13:26,460 the full and complete, 253 00:13:27,000 --> 00:13:31,350 it's a whole new level. It's a whole new game. And this is 254 00:13:31,500 --> 00:13:34,200 where I want all of you to be in every single 255 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:35,370 relationship that you have. 256 00:13:36,510 --> 00:13:38,280 Okay, take it to the maximum, 257 00:13:38,610 --> 00:13:43,980 they can always take it to whatever you can. however far 258 00:13:43,980 --> 00:13:47,910 you can take this in many ways, it's going to always depend on 259 00:13:47,910 --> 00:13:51,210 another person also, because when you are ready to give, 260 00:13:51,990 --> 00:13:56,100 sometimes you overgrow another person that you're ready to give 261 00:13:56,100 --> 00:14:00,000 so much but they're not even able to receive.

So this is the 262 00:14:01,380 --> 00:14:05,280 The top point of this relationship so far until the 263 00:14:05,280 --> 00:14:05,970 other person 264 00:14:05,970 --> 00:14:06,870 grows enough 265 00:14:06,870 --> 00:14:10,680 to receive more and be more also, so you can book and grow. 266 00:14:10,890 --> 00:14:14,430 So every relationship in life in your life going to have a 267 00:14:14,430 --> 00:14:18,270 different pace of growth, of course, and this pace, 268 00:14:19,049 --> 00:14:21,809 try to always make it so it doesn't depend 269 00:14:21,810 --> 00:14:23,070 on you. Okay? 270 00:14:23,309 --> 00:14:24,209 And what I mean by that is 271 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:28,620 try to be more practical grow, invest more in this 272 00:14:28,620 --> 00:14:33,300 relationship, but not too much. So you don't make a bad 273 00:14:33,300 --> 00:14:33,810 investment. 274 00:14:34,410 --> 00:14:37,740 Just try to grow as much as possible.

So you can give as 275 00:14:37,740 --> 00:14:41,790 much as you can receive as much as you can from another person 276 00:14:41,850 --> 00:14:45,150 and let another person to grow to your level of giving 277 00:14:45,150 --> 00:14:47,130 and receiving and be open. 278 00:14:48,990 --> 00:14:52,140 So yeah, cool game. So 279 00:14:53,429 --> 00:14:54,659 and it starts Of course, 280 00:14:55,530 --> 00:14:58,110 with yourself. So to summarize, 281 00:14:58,170 --> 00:15:00,870 in order to have great relationships, To start with 282 00:15:00,870 --> 00:15:05,370 yourself is a very basic thing, okay? In order to actually have 283 00:15:05,370 --> 00:15:07,830 a relationship with somebody, you need to have a relationship 284 00:15:07,830 --> 00:15:14,250 with yourself. So what do I mean relationship with yourself is 285 00:15:14,340 --> 00:15:17,910 you need to understand this.

You to understand who you are, what 286 00:15:17,910 --> 00:15:20,370 you like, what you're doing, like, what are your desires? 287 00:15:20,580 --> 00:15:26,220 What are your boundaries are? Can you say no? Can you express 288 00:15:26,220 --> 00:15:31,710 your feelings? Pretty straightforward can be open. Can 289 00:15:31,710 --> 00:15:35,790 you control your emotions?

Can you understand that? There's no 290 00:15:35,790 --> 00:15:37,380 point to their emotions at all, 291 00:15:37,439 --> 00:15:38,699 and you're just wasting energy 292 00:15:39,150 --> 00:15:43,230 when you express them or you wizened up in those things. So 293 00:15:43,290 --> 00:15:47,220 you need to understand yourself, you need to at least understand 294 00:15:47,220 --> 00:15:51,600 yourself at the level of this mind body. What are you capable 295 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:55,770 of? What do you want from life? You need to know all these 296 00:15:55,770 --> 00:15:59,280 things for yourself before you get into relationship with 297 00:15:59,280 --> 00:16:01,680 somebody else.

Because as soon as you get into relationship 298 00:16:01,680 --> 00:16:03,390 with somebody else, and the person 299 00:16:03,420 --> 00:16:05,190 kind of assumes naturally, that 300 00:16:05,340 --> 00:16:09,660 you are a different person, but you already know who you are and 301 00:16:09,660 --> 00:16:13,380 what you are and where you're going, and what do you want, so 302 00:16:13,380 --> 00:16:16,500 they kind of want to communicate with you. So what are you like, 303 00:16:17,220 --> 00:16:17,910 Oh, I like this 304 00:16:17,910 --> 00:16:20,550 and this and this. Okay, cool. So we can really can I like this 305 00:16:20,550 --> 00:16:24,420 and this and this. And what do you don't like? Well, I look 306 00:16:24,420 --> 00:16:27,180 like this, this and this, and I don't like this and this and 307 00:16:27,180 --> 00:16:30,420 this.

So you see, and then now we can create relationships. But 308 00:16:30,420 --> 00:16:31,710 what if one of you doesn't 309 00:16:31,710 --> 00:16:33,270 know what he doesn't? Like? 310 00:16:33,299 --> 00:16:38,009 What if he doesn't know what he likes? And so many more things. 311 00:16:38,249 --> 00:16:42,689 So this is the very beginning.

The very beginning is a 312 00:16:42,689 --> 00:16:45,059 relationship with yourself, you have to do for yourself, you 313 00:16:45,059 --> 00:16:47,879 have to understand yourself, you have to respect yourself, love 314 00:16:47,879 --> 00:16:51,899 yourself. You have to try to get yourself to some kind of level 315 00:16:51,899 --> 00:16:55,709 of understanding before you actually get in relationship 316 00:16:55,709 --> 00:17:01,859 with somebody else. So you're not this person. From another 317 00:17:01,859 --> 00:17:06,689 person, you know, I mean, so this is really important to 318 00:17:06,689 --> 00:17:07,199 understand, 319 00:17:07,319 --> 00:17:08,099 I hope you got 320 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:10,800 and I'll give you some cool assignments 321 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:15,030 to, of course, work these things out a little bit of help that 322 00:17:15,030 --> 00:17:20,520 help you look deeper into some. Okay, so, this was the last 323 00:17:20,670 --> 00:17:22,440 pillar that I wanted to give you.

324 00:17:22,830 --> 00:17:25,170 And as you can see so far, 325 00:17:25,949 --> 00:17:30,989 these are the main areas of any relationship that really really 326 00:17:31,019 --> 00:17:35,789 affect the relationship and at different levels and say, from 327 00:17:35,789 --> 00:17:40,919 different sides and we are multi dimensional, we are really 328 00:17:40,919 --> 00:17:45,359 complex. So all these things need to be imbalanced, okay? All 329 00:17:45,359 --> 00:17:48,599 of these things need to be present in relationships because 330 00:17:48,869 --> 00:17:52,589 if something is still missing, then it's the relationship is 331 00:17:52,589 --> 00:17:57,029 not complete and has weaknesses and has to be further work the 332 00:17:57,029 --> 00:18:02,729 phone. Okay, so again, With a constant growth, constant work 333 00:18:02,729 --> 00:18:06,119 constant transformation, and if it doesn't transform and doesn't 334 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:10,139 change, and you don't change with it, then this is going to 335 00:18:10,139 --> 00:18:13,379 die.

Because this is everything that doesn't 336 00:18:13,410 --> 00:18:14,100 grow, 337 00:18:14,370 --> 00:18:17,100 decide to know in life, there's no 338 00:18:17,100 --> 00:18:19,230 such such thing is just 339 00:18:20,670 --> 00:18:21,210 nothing. 340 00:18:22,440 --> 00:18:25,440 In life you either grow or you integrate. 341 00:18:25,860 --> 00:18:28,260 Okay, by degrading in this case, I mean, of course 342 00:18:28,260 --> 00:18:33,780 dying awful relationship. So, I hope these points were really 343 00:18:33,780 --> 00:18:36,630 clear to you. And if not 344 00:18:39,270 --> 00:18:41,280 rewatch the course again and 345 00:18:42,180 --> 00:18:44,820 read up some more literature about these things, which is 346 00:18:45,120 --> 00:18:48,810 readily available in many cool books, or maybe recommended 347 00:18:48,810 --> 00:18:53,790 books for you is your journey. So it'll come to just ask the 348 00:18:53,790 --> 00:18:56,820 right questions and just observe.

349 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:00,450 You have to have this inquisitive mindset. About this 350 00:19:00,450 --> 00:19:00,810 things 351 00:19:00,810 --> 00:19:03,930 and you have to really start observing the relationship. 352 00:19:04,530 --> 00:19:10,320 Learn from learn how many things affect your relationship and try 353 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:17,520 to apply and diagnose it with this structure again. Okay, so, 354 00:19:18,270 --> 00:19:22,230 in the next video, we're just going to try to summarize 355 00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:25,830 this whole course and give some examples 356 00:19:25,830 --> 00:19:27,510 in certain situations 357 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:32,400 from our lives and how we resolve them.